Vi Nguyen, the Sex on Tuesday columnist in Berkeley’s Daily Californianwrites about her first threesome and how that grew into a preference for group sex over intimate relations with someone special or even a quick hook-up:

But because I feel weird as hell — I’ve never been attracted to him, and this is the dude my friend is convinced she’s going to marry — I yank off his shirt and run off with it in what I hope seems appropriate and sexy. Inwardly, I feel like a five-year-old miscreant …

[G]roup sex doesn’t leave that sour taste in my mouth that casual hooking up often does. From my experience, there’s generally less emotional intensity and instead a focus on just having some lascivious feels and fun. Maybe it’s because things aren’t personal …

Because you don’t want your sexual encounters to get, em, personal.

You know that there is trouble brewing in the culture when hooking up is too much of a commitment/too much work for one’s fix of casual sex.